As I sit here in Starbucks sipping on my Grande caramel macchiato (I want your blog experience to be visual as well as physical, so we’re here together). I’m listening to Spice Girls 2 Become 1 which is the inspiration for blog post, no pun intended. I’ve held conversations with female and male friends on a relevant issue that connects single, in a relationship and married people alike. What do you do when your single and all the quality men are taken? Do you accept the fact that your search may take a little longer to find that needle in the haystack ( the good man without any attachments, thanks Jas)? Or are you willing to share? If you’re sensitive to subject content, do not continue to read.
Since I have become single especially after the age of 30, the picking of men are slim to none. I’ve been on date after date to the point I was labeled as the girl who only went on dates for food (damn, that was kind of harsh). Realistically I knew what kind of man I wanted, but those type of men were already snatched up and taken. I wasn’t alone; my single girlfriends were in the same boat. Oh, and the horror stories that I have dating in this generation, we’ll talk about that later on down the road.
Having girl talk introduced me to some real life shit, I’ve been out the game for nearly ten years; I was so lost. I’ve encountered the I’m not with my girl anymore but we still live together man. The man who doesn’t have a girlfriend but somehow gets engaged a month later man, and let’s not forget the I’m in a relationship, but I’m an unhappy man. Is that what I have to look forward to?
From my male friends perspective, pretty much. Women are out here outnumbering men in these streets and men have a lot of options as well due to the advancement of social media. Majority of the men I encounter say that they wouldn’t mind having two women (two different personalities and attitudes, ya’ll crazy)! Ironically, some women would willingly accept the offer, yup I know a few. This situation would only be accepted if they were being taken care of financially and were completely satisfied. Their reasoning, the lack of quality men and the mentality that all men do is lie anyway (well some men).
So with that being said and I must say that this is a relevant topic that goes all the way back to before we were even thought of in our parent’s mind. Some of us have grandfathers with two different families who lived in the same neighborhood, let’s talk about it.
Would you as a woman deal with a man who wants to be with you and another woman in which he can provide for you both and fulfill your every need or want? If so, are you just settling and giving up hope? Or is this just a temporary situation until Mr. Right comes along?
Men, I definitely want to hear your opinion as well. Is this your ideal situation or will this type of relationship just add more unnecessary stress to your life?